The Simplest Leadership Lesson — EVER.

Just back from vacation and…

It was the highest of high season and there wasn’t a room to be had in Moab until someone cancelled at the LaQuinta. My friend Cindy and I grabbed it. I hadn’t stayed in one of their hotels since I went on a house-hunting trip to Denver in 1989. This time, I was really impressed by the staff — especially when Cindy realized she’d forgotten something valuable in the dresser drawer shortly before flying out of Grand Junction, Co. The front desk clerk immediately retrieved it and took it to a mailing center.

Our flight was delayed and we wound up getting stuck in Dallas for the night. American Airlines put us up at the — guess what? — the LaQuinta Inn. We arrived late with a dozen ornery and exhausted travelers who’d also gotten stuck. The front desk clerk passed out cookies and water bottles, told us she’d asked the restaurant to stay open until we all were fed, arranged for a shuttle driver to come in early to take us to the airport and notified the breakfast crew to get in early to make sure we didn’t leave hungry.

I was impressed, so I wrote the company CEO, Wayne Goldberg. We exchanged a few e-mails and I finally asked him what it takes to lead so successfully that your vision carries all the way through your organization like that. He wrote back the simplest, most eloquent leadership lesson of all:

“It is actually very easy because it is all about people.  It has always been my goal to make coming to work the best part of our people’s day.  Just like wanting loyal customer, we want and work to drive loyal employees. The key word is engagement and when you have loyal engaged guest and employees, you have a powerful combination. I am fortunate, I get to come to work every day and work with the most incredible people in the hotel business. I am driven everyday by our core values:

People - Make coming to work the best part of your employees day.

Passion - Approach your work with a sense of pride a s personal ownership.

Integrity – Do the right thing, even when no one is watching.

Excellence - Do ordinary things, just do them extraordinarily well.

And

Unique - We have become a big company, but we think and act like a all company and we are not afraid to be different.

I can also say that other than spending time with my family, coming to work is the best part of my day.

Sincerely,

Wayne”

 

What he did was create an environment where people could serve others at a level that goes beyond any Marriott, Weston or Hyatt. They aren’t far off from a Four Seasons or Ritz, either. I told him he should write a book. What a great lesson for all of us.

Use a STOP Prompt

There is so much in life that, when you think about it, will leave you bewildered, exasperated or confused. Life provides you endless opportunities to overthink problems or situations, but you have the power to use an “instant intervention” technique that will move your thoughts right along. It’s really simple, too.

When you catch yourself going deep on a subject that you will never fully understand or fix, just say, “STOP.” And move on to another topic.

That is what you can do when you catch yourself fixating on something that is not going to resolve itself with deep concentration or endless fretting. You always have the option to repeat some affirmations to change the subject, but a quick “STOP” jolt to the brain is often all you need to free yourself.

Say you catch yourself trying to figure out why a mean person is mean. At some point, you realize you will never get the answer, yet you continue to try to figure it out because that person has hurt you for no good reason. Try a “STOP” jolt. Or you start worrying about something you can’t control. “STOP.” Or you start obsessing about policy or politics or numbers or rules that you can’t change or control. Say “STOP.” Your brain eventually learns to respect “STOP” prompts and frees you to think about something that really deserves your attention.

Fawn Germer is an internationally acclaimed leadership speaker and bestselling author. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write info@fawngermer.com.

Jump Off the Treadmill

You can choose to measure yourself by how fast you run on your chosen life treadmill, or you can jump off and get a little perspective. There is the career treadmill, the perfect parent treadmill, the wealth accumulation treadmill and any of the dozens of other treadmills out there that cause you to constantly push yourself to go faster and harder – even when they are burning out your soul.

In those moments when you aren’t delivering perfection on a treadmill, you may well start experiencing unnecessary feelings of failure. Life treadmills move faster and faster until the time comes when you collapse.

Ease your pace. Know that there will be times when you can run fast and hard, and times when you can’t. There will be times when you deliver a Herculean performance, and times when you don’t. There will be times when you are “all that” and times when you aren’t.

Look at your treadmills. Are they serving you well or causing you to focus too much energy on one dimension of your life while ignoring others that may be personally, physically or spiritually more important?

Don’t forget that life is invigorating when you dive into it as a big picture experience. Running hard on one treadmill often means you aren’t moving on the other ones, and the day may come when you realize you have spent your life running a million miles and gotten  nowhere at all.

Bestselling author Fawn Germer is popular worldwide for her inspiring keynotes. She is recognized as one of the premier experts on work-life balance. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write info@fawngermer.com.

 

 

Leave the Party Early

There’s the world’s winningest coach who won’t leave the field until he gets fired because of a losing record. Or the guest who never leaves. There isn’t much difference. You always want to leave people wanting a little more, so timing is everything. Be conscious of it.

It may seem contrived or calculating, but it is the truth. If you are the last one to go, you’ve stayed too long. It is the same issue whether you are talking about leaving a party or retiring after years of service. You always gain more when people want more. So be conscious of what is going on around you.

As you age into your career, consciously make yourself relevant by learning new things and delivering better than anybody else. When you reach the point where you know you probably “should” think about moving on or retiring, you should think ask yourself three questions:

1.    Are you delivering your best performance?

2.    Is that performance enough for you to remain viable, valuable and appreciated in your current situation?

3.    Does it matter to you to leave on a high note?

If it doesn’t matter to you how you go out, then hang around as long as you want to hang around. But if that high note matters, always consider your timing.

Leave when they still want more. That’s how legends are built.

Bestselling Oprah author Fawn Germer has personally interviewed more famous leaders than any other leadership speaker. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write info@fawngermer.com.

Stop Being So Quick to Judge

You’ve heard how important it is not to judge a book by its cover, yet all of us do it all the time. You see something that doesn’t fit with your concept of acceptability and give it a label. You can judge others by gender, weight, height, race, sexual orientation, friends, class, education, title, teeth, financial holdings. You can judge someone by the car he or she drives, hair color, home, neighborhood, relatives, political affiliation, favorite television shows, domestic abilities, and so much more.

What good does that do you?

Sometimes, you let your judgment completely color (and taint) your perspective on someone who doesn’t meet your standards. You don’t like the person, so you don’t listen to the person. Granted, there are people you aren’t going to want to hang with, but there is usually something in every person that you can learn from or enjoy. Before you judge so severely that you write someone off, open your heart and look for the good.

True, there are some people who live lives that are completely without merit – but there aren’t a lot of them.

We all judge, but we should not judge too harshly.

Judgment is a barrier to connection and communication. You may be missing out on good people – or, at least, different perspectives that may be of value. When you step outside of yourself and look at who and how you are judging, you may have to take a minute to judge yourself and ask if your judgments are adding depth to your life or taking meaning away.

Fawn Germer is one of North America’s most sought after speakers on leadership and performance. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write info@fawngermer.com.

Stop Settling: Dare to Expect More for Yourself

You’re in love. Sort of.

You like your job. Kind of.

You can’t have it all, or at least you keep telling yourself that, and if what you have isn’t all that bad, what’s the problem?

Well, it’s not all that good, either.

Settling is a disease that minimizes possibility for people who deserve better, but don’t have the courage to demand it. Just about everybody settles for something at one point or another, but when you look at where you are — really look at it — and catch yourself thinking, “It could be way worse,” you are settling for something that could likely be way, way better.

You’ve seen people in truly fabulous relationships, but most people don’t have that kind of deep, enduring, best-friend kind of love so you make do with an average relationship. Many people settle for average because they think it beats the hell out of being alone. But, maybe it doesn’t. And maybe the decision to stop settling and start learning to be alone is the first step toward finding a true, enduring love.

The same thing goes for your job. If you are reluctant to start sending resumes out and deal with the whole indignity of job hunting, you settle for work that is good, not great. But a lot of people find their calling and real fulfillment by going for broke and daring to find something that is great, not just good. Why not you?

Are you settling? How’s that working for you?

Bestselling author Fawn Germer is popular worldwide for her inspiring keynotes. She is recognized as one of the premier experts on work-life balance. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write info@fawngermer.com.

 

Stop Seeking 100% Approval. You Aren’t Going to Get It.

There is a great quote widely attributed to Abe Lincoln: “You can please all of the people some of the time, and some of the people all of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all the time.” Actually, the Lincoln quote switches the word “fool” for “please.” But, this is a blog on wisdom and empowerment. We don’t need to talk about fooling others. We do need to talk about how much energy we lose by endlessly trying to please others.

You can get praise from 99 people in a room, and criticism from the 100th. Which words are you going to remember most? Are you going to over-analyze the praise or pick apart and struggle with the criticism?

This is a hard lesson. You are not going to make everybody happy. You may be the most spectacularly wonderful person alive and, still, some people are going to think (or vent) bad things about you. In fact, some of the people who should love you will actually detest you — even though you have done nothing to deserve their ire. Sometimes it is jealousy. Sometimes it is the need to be a critical voice on every little thing. Sometimes people are just nasty.

Haters will just hate others and endlessly spew their hatred. If you get some undeserved criticism, hold your head up and keep moving forward.

You aren’t going to score with everybody.

You just aren’t.

You can either wallow in it or carry on. Criticism is a good thing when it is well-intentioned and constructive. Listen to it, and use what is helpful. But realize that there is an awful lot of criticism out there that serves no purpose other than to hurt or hinder others. You don’t need it, and you are free to ignore it.

Fawn Germer is one of North America’s most sought after speakers on leadership and performance. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write info@fawngermer.com.

Live Now.

Most people walk through life with their eyes closed. They show up for their day as if they had an unlimited number of healthy days to live and they put off doing the things they love the most.

You’ve got to make a living, but you aren’t living if your work consumes your opportunities for joy. You don’t get an unlimited number of days to do the fun stuff and the day will come when things will change. People you love will get sick, or you will get sick. Your body will wear out and you just won’t be able to do the things you always meant to do.

Why aren’t you doing those things right now? Dive into your day. Consciously live it. Smell the fresh air. Feel the sun on your face. Talk to people you love and enjoy hearing the sound of their voices. Enjoy your health. Feel gratitude. Let yourself be happy.

And when you are at your work, take a moment to just enjoy what you are doing. The hubbub. The challenge. The opportunity. Because, even your routine won’t be yours to enjoy forever.

There is a saying that “These are the good old days.” Live them now.

Bestselling author Fawn Germer is popular worldwide for her inspiring keynotes. She is recognized as one of the premier experts on work-life balance. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write info@fawngermer.com.

 

Tell People What You Need

Most people want to be good friends, partners and colleagues. They don’t want to hurt you, but there will be times when they do. You may be in crisis and a close friend will completely tune out and forget. Or not know what to say. Of course you would prefer him or her to always be there to anticipate and deliver on all your needs, but human beings are fallible. They have perspectives that may  be very different from yours.

People generally deliver what they assume they’d want in your situation. Or they think they are delivering when they are falling short.

You don’t want to jump up and down and say, “Look, I need you to do this for me!” but sometimes you have to. Some people are a little thick. For example, you may be grieving your divorce. A close friend may be nowhere in sight. You may have to call up and say, “I’m having a tough time, I need you to get me out of the house.”

Those people who can anticipate your needs are real treasures, but don’t discard those people who need a little help in being good to you. If you ask for help and don’t get it, well, that’s another matter. But, most people want to be there for you. Give them the chance to do right by you.

Don’t set them up to disappoint you. Just tell them what you need.

Fawn Germer is an internationally acclaimed leadership speaker and bestselling author. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write info@fawngermer.com.

Stop Commiserating With Negative People

Misery may love company, but that kind of company just makes you more miserable. If you are feeling yourself being sucked under, one of the worst things you can do is start commiserating with someone else who is feeling the same despair. Unless the two of you are committed to being positive 99 percent of the time, you will feed on each other’s negativity and your morale will collapse entirely.

When you are facing difficulties, surround yourself with people who have the energy and perspective that will lift you out of the mire. You know who they are. They are the glass-full people who don’t focus on what’s wrong, but rather, what is right. They are the hopelessly positive people who see obstacles and know they will find a way.

If you are so negative that you can’t appreciate their positivity, ask yourself why. Are you too cynical to embrace that perspective? You can choose that energy, but why would you? Positive people generate positive results. They are more successful. They are happier. Negative people get negative results. They battle everything and must carry the heavy weight of all that is wrong with the world. Why would you choose that?

Suspend the negativity and really think about what you want to attract into your life. If it is happiness and success, then what kind of friends are going to help you create that for yourself? Dark and negative people who fixate on their obstacles and can’t stop talking about what they are afraid of or what’s wrong? Or happy and successful people who know they are facing obstacles but have confidence that they will find a way around them?

Bestselling Oprah author Fawn Germer has personally interviewed more famous leaders than any other leadership speaker. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write info@fawngermer.com.

When Everything Falls Apart… Walk Away. (For a Little While)

The next time you have a day when the universe is messing with your fortitude, pack it in and move along for the day. Why hang around to miss some more when you have been swinging the bat and missing all day?  Sometimes you just need to walk away. Breathe.

This does not mean quit. It means walk away. Decompress. Do something you enjoy. Connect with people you care about. Pray. Do something that makes you happy. Recharge yourself so that, come morning, you have the energy to dig in and make things happen again.

For example, a deal falls through. And then another. Then your pen leaks on your suit. Then you get a flat tire.

At some point, you have just got to get up and walk away. It’s not going to get any better. It may not get better for awhile, but if you go home, get on your bicycle or go for a walk or kiss a baby or do something that can ground you in your “real” life, you will be able to shed some of that ick that has attached itself to you.

Be with the blessings that you count. Breathe in what is good with your life and your frustration will magically level off so you are prepared to dive back in and create success the next day.

Fawn Germer is one of North America’s most sought after speakers on leadership and performance. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write info@fawngermer.com.

How to Conquer Huge Challenges? Just Start.

You need to lose 20 pounds. Or 40 or 60 or 100 pounds. It is so discouraging to look at a huge challenge and find the energy to begin when you know the road you are going to have to travel is long and arduous.

Then again, every journey always begins with what? The first step. (Don’t groan.) And, have you ever noticed that you almost always feel better by just taking that step? You may need to lose 50 pounds, but you feel lighter once you’ve lost the first one.

Just start.

 

Yes, deciding to change your life is a big deal, but that decision does not become real until you actually take that first step.

Don’t freak yourself out by focusing on how huge and overwhelming your goal is Focusing on losing five pounds is a lot less intimidating than focusing on the hundred pounds that have to go. And setting your mind to taking and completing one course is much less stressful than focusing on four years of classes that you need in order to get your degree.

Figure out your steps and then start moving forward. You’ll feel better when you take that first step — but you have got to take it.

Bestselling author Fawn Germer is popular worldwide for her inspiring keynotes. She is recognized as one of the premier experts on work-life balance. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write info@fawngermer.com.

 

 

Forgive Already! Let Go of Your Bitterness and Move On.

“Forgiveness is a gift that you give to yourself.” Author unknown, but what a great quote.

When you have been let down, betrayed or otherwise wronged by someone, it is so easy to lose days, months — even years — to your bitterness.

Who is that punishing? The other person? Or YOU?

That boss who really stuck it to you hasn’t lost that kind of energy worrying that you are mad. That “friend” who betrayed you isn’t fretting about what he or she did to slight you.

And yet, there you are, feeling victimized and angry because you never got a proper apology, any remorse or any sort of emotional compensation for your suffering. You try to move on, but it is so hard to let go because what happened was wrong.You expect a little justice and fairness out of life, and while you know you probably aren’t going to get it from the system of work, government and community, you do expect it from people with whom you interact.

If you are good to others, they’re suppose to be good to you. Right?

But some people are not good to you. Or their perspective is different and they actually think they are being good to you, even though you don’t see it that way. Sometimes, others victimize you by doing what, in their hearts, they think is right.

You have two choices. You can wallow in what happened and stay bitter, or you can let it go and forgive.

Seriously forgive.

Forgive like a saint.

Because what you are doing is freeing yourself to let go of that negative energy and move on. You are taking your life back.

Use the affirmation: “I forgive (insert name) unconditionally as a gift to myself. I have moved on.” The more you say it, the more you will believe it.

And as you come to embrace that belief, you will let go of your bitterness and move on.

What a gift.

Fawn Germer is an internationally acclaimed leadership speaker and bestselling author. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write info@fawngermer.com.

A Healthy Body is a Beautiful Body

We have so much control over our self-esteem, yet most of us invite negativity to move into our brains and drag us down. Isn’t it interesting that most of our self-esteem issues are rooted in our own personal attacks on our physical appearance? We get stuck on our weight, our skin, our hair, our height, the size of our breasts, the size of our feet — whatever. Most of us look in the mirror and see room for improvement. LOTS of room for improvement.

That negativity is so destructive. And it is false. You can look at the best looking woman in the room and you can just about bet that she’s said some pretty ugly things to herself today. Sure, you’d take her body or her hair or her eyes or whatever, but she sees the tiny zit on her forehead and nothing else.

If you are healthy, you have a perfect body.

PERFECT.

If you doubt that, imagine how you would feel about your body if you suddenly were diagnosed with cancer? You’d want your old, flawed, healthy body back in an instant. You would suddenly realize how good you had it, even though you’d been beating yourself up for your imperfections despite your perfect health.

It is time to wrap yourself in a self-appreciation because negativity makes your body an unhealthy host. Negativity attract stress and illness. If your body works, it is perfect. It will let you live well and explore the world. It will let you enjoy so much.

Why not appreciate it?

Why not thank your body for getting you where you need to go? Because, a healthy body is truly a beautiful thing. Appreciate it while you have it.

Bestselling Oprah author Fawn Germer has personally interviewed more famous leaders than any other leadership speaker. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write info@fawngermer.com.

On Adversity: You Never Know How Close You are to Turning the Corner (Until You Turn the Corner)

Winston Churchill once said, “If you are going through hell, keep going.” Well, who wants to go through hell? Nobody. But the greatest learning and growth almost always comes when you push through a series of obstacles that take you to the brink.

The truth is that it can be as hard to quit as it is to persevere. Both options require a different kind of courage, but the end result and growth experience are very, very different. In one experience, you feel loss. In the other, you feel victory. Sometimes the victory is just one of endurance — that you hung in there long enough to see things through, even if things didn’t turn out as you expected.

But, quitting, that takes some work. You have to figure out when you are going to quit and how. Sometimes, all you need is to give yourself permission to quit in order to find the energy to keep pushing through a difficult experience. So, delay quitting until the very last minute. Hang in there as long as you possibly can.

How do you find the courage to stand in the pain and take one more step?  Where does that  strength come from? How far deep within you do you have to go? It is painful, but the pain is just part of getting through life’s obstacles. You keep moving forward until you suddenly realize you’ve made it. You’ve accomplished something that you thought was completely impossible.

You never know when you are going to turn the corner until you actually turn the corner, so just keep moving forward.

Bestselling author Fawn Germer is popular worldwide for her inspiring keynotes. She has credibility because she has interviewed more than 300 famous leaders for their strategies and tips. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write info@fawngermer.com.

 

When Friends Let You Down: Friendship is Not a Quid Pro Quo Experience

Sometimes you give and give and give. And when it is your turn to get, you get nothing.

We’ve all had a friend who has called us in a time of need. We’ve been there to listen. To offer a place to stay. To help in an emergency. We are good friends. Great friends. The kind of friend we want for the day when it is our turn to need help.

But then something happens to us and that person who needed and took so much vanishes. He or she doesn’t even call to check on us. How can someone who took so much give so little?

It is infuriating, but it is just a way of life. Friendship is not a quid pro quo experience. Even though you should be able to count on your friends to be there when you need them, they don’t always show up. Some people take more than they give. Some people can’t give at all. Should you dump them when they aren’t there for you? Maybe you should. That’s your call.

But when you start to feel down about the situation, start paying attention to the friends who are showing up. It is amazing that friends you never expected to be there for you are suddenly stepping in and helping. They are the givers.

Sometimes, you can give and give and give to one person, but when it is your turn to get, you get a real blessing from someone else. It’s not who you expected, but you suddenly found who your great, true friends are. It’s not the friend you expected, but someone even better.

Bestselling Oprah author Fawn Germer is defined by her hard won wisdom. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or writeinfo@fawngermer.com.

 

Don’t Set Others Up to Disappoint You.

It is so easy to make assumptions about others that are 100 percent wrong. Somebody doesn’t call you back, so you assume you’ve been dissed.

Maybe, maybe not. Maybe the person forgot. Lost your phone number. Is in a deep depression. Maybe he or she went on a vacation. Meant to call but didn’t get around to it. Maybe he or she is ill. Or has a family member who is ill. Or moved. Maybe he or she changed numbers and never got the message. The list of real excuses can (and does) go on and on.

How hard is it to ask someone what’s up? Be direct instead of assuming you’ve been slighted.

The same thing goes when someone is disappointing you. You are going through a tough time and you expect your friends to anticipate your needs and deliver — just like you have always done for them. Yet, your needs aren’t always obvious to others — even close friends.

Don’t set others up to disappoint you. Let them know what you need.

You might mention you have a medical or family concern and your friend may completely forget to follow-up and ask about it. This is a world filled with people with short attention spans.

Do you remember everything that everybody tells you? Good for you! Most people don’t. Remind them instead of being resentful over their forgetfulness.

If you directly ask “What’s up?” and it happens again, you can start getting resentful. But always the other person the opportunity to set things straight.

Bestselling author Fawn Germer is popular worldwide for her inspiring keynotes. She is recognized as one of the premier experts on work-life balance. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write info@fawngermer.com.

 

Own Your Calendar. The Truth About Work-Life Balance.

Going crazy because you’ve got no time for yourself? Stop right now. Get into your calendar. Pick an hour — any hour — and make an appointment with yourself. Then, learn this important lesson: You own your calendar. You don’t need to complain about work-life balance, you don’t need to ask for tips on work-life balance. You just need to balance your life by owning your calendar.

Just as you find ways to make time for your hairdresser and physician, you can make time for yourself. All you have to do is decide to own your calendar. It’s your time.

Really. You get one life. Your time is spent the way you spend it. You do have many, many, many obligations, but those are your chosen callings. You can say no to a few things. You can do a few minimums on other things to create time for yourself. But, it is an amazing thing when you just write the word “off” in a slot on your calendar. Everything else fits around it.

This may sound overly simplified — especially if you are a parent who is truly juggling too much. But your time is your time. You can still, love, honor and adore the people around you, as well as be devoted to your work and community without putting yourself last every single time. You matter. You can’t be good for everyone else when you aren’t good for yourself.

There are times when you don’t have time to do anything except the insanity at hand. But those are exceptions. They must be exceptions. If they are not, then you need to make life changes that will give you enough calming moments in your day so you can function and actually live your life.

Look at your calendar. Give yourself an hour tomorrow. A day off within the next couple of weeks. Take the time, because it is your time. If you give every minute away, were you even here on this earth?

Bestselling author Fawn Germer is popular worldwide for her inspiring keynotes. She is recognized as one of the premier experts on work-life balance. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write info@fawngermer.com.

 

You Can Travel Easy or You Can Travel Hard. Shed the Stress.

Life works better when you respect your internal speed limit. You can try to cram as much as you can into your day, or you can dial it back a couple of notches and make a conscious decision to reduce your stress by not having to accomplish everything.

Think about what you are like when you are in a huge hurry, racing your car well above the speed limit so you can get things done. You feel the stress in your shoulders. You know you are risking a speeding ticket and perhaps endangering your life and the lives of others. You have got to get to the next thing because the world will end if you don’t.

Or will it? Think about how your stress level goes down when you just slow down to the speed limit. So what if you lose ten minutes? Your day will be better. You will perform better. Others will appreciate you because you are not emitting a current of tension.

Travel easy. Pay extra for the direct flight. Skip unnecessary meetings or visits. Make decisions that give you time to live, time to rest. Take the pressure off of yourself so you can better enjoy your life while performing better at work.

Fawn Germer is one of North America’s most sought after speakers on leadership and performance. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write info@fawngermer.com.

 

 

Control Your Worrying: Taking Charge Over Your Stress Points

There is a wonderful cliche that says 90 percent of the things you worry about will never happen. No one can actually measure that, but it’s probably true. We live in a culture of worry. No wonder it is so easy to become consumed by it.

How can you get it under control?

Schedule your worries. Just give yourself a good 30 to 40 minutes a day to dig in and worry hard about the things that need your attention. Then, shut it down until your next worry session.

If you are getting a massage, that is no time to be fretting about finances, conference calls or Valentine’s that didn’t come. It is a time to tune out. So you tell yourself, “I already did my worry session for today. I’ll have to worry about this tomorrow.” It works.

Also, try to focus on one thing at a time. Multiple worry lines can make you a crazy person. They also send you into a worry loop where your perception distorts your reality.

It is only natural to worry. But you don’t have to let your worries own you.

Bestselling Oprah author Fawn Germer has personally interviewed more famous leaders than any other leadership speaker. To check availability for motivational speaking keynotes or workshops, or for information on life and executive coaching sessions, call (727) 467-0202 or write info@fawngermer.com.

 

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